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Mahir Laul is a typical example. At 18, he paused his college education to focus fully on his startup, Velric. Most of his time is split between coding and the gym. Dating has almost disappeared from his life. Laul openly admits his love life is at its lowest point, but in exchange, he feels he simply can\u2019t afford to slow down in the tech race.<\/p>\n

In today\u2019s Silicon Valley, work no longer fits into office hours. Offices stay lit through the weekend, company cards are swiped on Saturdays and Sundays. All-night coding sessions, sleepless hackathons, and social media posts glorifying a \u201cmonk mode\u201d lifestyle have quietly become an unspoken standard among young founders.<\/p>\n

In that environment, dating is often seen as a distraction. Some say bluntly that they only have enough energy for one thing, and that thing is their company. To them, a good relationship is a lot like a good startup: it demands time, effort, and emotional investment. And if they have to choose, they choose the product.<\/p>\n

Many set clear \u201cdating milestones\u201d: they\u2019ll only consider a serious relationship after a Series B round, when things are less chaotic. Until then, casual fun is fine, but commitment can wait. Love gets placed on a balance sheet, treated like a business decision.<\/p>\n

What\u2019s striking is that tech people don\u2019t just optimize products\u2014they try to optimize love itself. Some score potential partners like KPIs, rank emotions through logic, or attempt to \u201cbiohack\u201d relationships. But love doesn\u2019t run on algorithms, and the harder they try to control it, the more easily it slips away.<\/p>\n

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San Francisco isn\u2019t exactly an easy place to fall in love either. The gender imbalance, the small number of female startup founders, and the anxiety of \u201cnot successful enough to date yet\u201d or \u201ctoo successful and worried about being loved for the money\u201d all add up. Some even move to New York or fly back to Europe just to have a more normal dating life.<\/p>\n

Meanwhile, the LGBTQ+ community often enjoys a more vibrant romantic scene, thanks to greater openness and less pressure to \u201cmake it first, then love.\u201d<\/em> As for many lonely young founders, they love in a very Silicon Valley way: meeting through work, connecting on LinkedIn, swiping on Tinder with networking in mind rather than finding a partner.<\/p>\n

Perhaps at the heart of this relentless AI race, love hasn\u2019t disappeared\u2014it\u2019s just been pushed to the bottom of the priority list. And somewhere between lines of code running through the night, many young people in Silicon Valley are quietly wondering when they\u2019ll finally have enough time to love someone, not just their work.<\/p>\n

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